Some problems and experiences, especially those that have been around for a long time, can leave you feeling hopeless and overwhelmed. At these times, you may think that you have no options left. You may think about suicide as a way to escape intense emotional pain.
People who kill themselves often think that their problems are unbearable and can’t be fixed. They feel like nothing they have tried has or will change their situation. Their emotional pain can distort their thinking so it becomes harder to trust, or to see possible solutions to problems, or to connect with available love and support.
Even if it seems that you can’t stand another minute, it is important to remember that feelings such as grief, anger, sadness, loneliness, shame, especially at this intense level, don’t last forever. Sometimes thoughts of suicide can become very strong, especially if you have taken drugs or alcohol.
Some of the thoughts you may be having are:
– Believing there are no other options;
– Sensing your family or friends would be better off without you;
– Thinking you’ve done something so horrible that suicide is the only option;
– Experiencing unbearable pain that feels like it will go on forever;
– Wanting to escape your suffering;
– Wanting to let your loved ones know how much you hurt;
– Wanting to hurt or get revenge on others.
When you think continually on the challenge you are experiencing, you create, fabricate, process or manufacture pain or displeasure, grief and worry. Unless you reproduce or process them in your mind, they have no influence or power over you.
Your feelings of pain are very real. However, it is important to know that there is hope. With the help of professionals and the support of family and friends, you can learn about what is causing your suffering and how you can change or manage it.
Hurting or killing yourself is not your only options. Counseling can help you learn new skills for dealing with your pain.
These might include
– Developing new skills to cope
– Seeing your problems in a new light
– Improving your ability to handle intense and painful emotions
– Improving your relationships
– Increasing your social supports
Dr. Joti Samra at el, 2007, Coping With Suicidal Thoughts, PDF Version.
Chris Oyakhilome, D.SC, D.D, A 2016, The Power of Your Mind, Print version.